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Sexuality expert and therapist Esther Perel has a way of re-conceptualizing ideas that feels like a massive paradigm shift, every single time. We got to see her in action at In goop Health you can watch her behind-the-scenes hereand she also co-hosted an intimate dinner in with GP and Lisa Rubin for the female-directed and led Gypsy. Her answers urge us not only to change the conversations we have with our partners, but the internal ones we replay constantly in our mind. Some people define desire in biological or cultural terms.

For me, desire is to own the wanting. Desire is really a fundamental expression of freedom and sovereignty—as in identity. Desire has not always been an inherent part of sexuality. For most of history, sexuality in women had nothing to do with desire. It had to do with duty. She had sex because it was a wifely duty.

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Women were meant to be desirable and respond to the desire of men. They had to decorate themselves, to make themselves attractive, they had to be wanted.

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For the most part, women were deriving their power and value from their desirability, not from the activation of their own desire or own will. The modern shift of sexuality in committed relationship is from a model of reproduction and duty to a model of connection and pleasure. Some people start with the arousal and then the desire follows. So, they engage in sex because they are aroused—they are turned on, excited, physiologically tickled. Some people start with the desire and then the arousal follows. So they have the thought, the idea, wish. Others start with willingness and openness, but they have neither desire nor arousal.

This willingness is rarely portrayed in Hollywood. This model comes out of the research of the psychiatrist Rosemary Basson, M. If more people could embrace this model—with desire and arousal following sex, not preceding—it would solve a lot of the struggle that many women have with desire. Do you think that is the case for many women who feel they have no desire—that the desire would follow sex? But for a lot of women, desire is responsive in nature, not spontaneous. Responsive desire is contextual. So, you change the context, change the mood, change the energy, and suddenly or gradually you may be into it.

If the sexual experience is not something you like in and of itself, then the quality of the relationship becomes a bigger determining factor—the intimacy, the connection you feel, the closeness is a motivator to engage in sex. For those who see intrinsic value in sex, who like it in and of itself, the quality of the relationship with their partner is not the determining factor for engaging in sex. You can see the biases all the way into the science—nearly all the studies on sexual desire are about women, not about men.

In order to remain interested, it needs to be interesting. So, we often think that women are not interested in sex, but it would be more accurate to say women are often not interested in the sex they can have. We know that women in Women in great Charleston wanting sex have a lot more orgasms than women who are not, because the partner is more attentive to this.

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In this sense, I think sex between two women is way better. I turn myself on whenor, I awaken my desireis very different from what turns me on isor, you turn me on when …. What turns women on tends to be the quality of life and vitality that is inside them. The common caretaker roles ascribed to women—wife, mother—are often very loving, but desexualizing. The domestic deals with aspects of womanhood but not the sexual self. You start to feel selfish. How can I do this now? Desire has an element of selfishness to it. In order to cum, you must stop thinking about someone else—you have to be inside yourself.

But for some women, you need three days away from home to reconnect to that part of you—the playful, non-responsible, mischievous, seductive, flirtatious, sensual, sexual self. Do you also see a desexualization of relationships over time, as partners become more familiar, and closer to one another?

Desire can wane because of the emotional arrangement of any relationship, because of the roles people have taken. That role might be full-time parent, and the couple only speaks to each other as parents.

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Other relationships take on a sibling quality. He feels like family.

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If you want sex, you have to turn your partner into an adult partner and not into a parent or a sibling. Is it helpful to see your partner through the eyes of others, or is that dangerous? But, in the process of making him secure, she desexualizes him. You can live without desire. Of course. There are things we do to stoke it. Sometimes it involves just saying this is a ritual, and I have a time and place during the week where I set aside my obligations and responsibilities, and I treat myself and get into my sexual self—and gradually into sex.

Maybe you get into it by having a nice meal, maybe a glass of wine, maybe you go for a walk, or dancing. Yesterday, I went salsa dancing—you know, people have such vibrancy when they dance, when they physically move.

Try it. She is also the executive producer and host of the original audio series, Where Should We Begin? What Women Need to Hear about Desire Sexuality expert and therapist Esther Perel has a way of re-conceptualizing ideas that feels like a massive paradigm shift, every single time.

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A Some people define desire in biological or cultural terms. Q How do you contextualize desire and sexuality? A Desire has not always been an inherent part of sexuality. Q How does desire relate to being turned on?

A There are three primary ways to engage in a sexual experience: Some people start with the arousal and then the desire follows.

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Q Do you think that is the case for many women who feel they have no desire—that the desire would follow sex? Q How does this vary depending on if you are in a relationship or not? A We know that women in relationships have a lot more orgasms than women who are not, because the partner is more attentive to this. Q What about in a relationship, when desire is present, but then wanes? Q Do you also see a desexualization of relationships over time, as partners become more familiar, and closer to one another?

Q Is there a way to re-set or shift that paradigm? Q Is it helpful to see your partner through the eyes of others, or is that dangerous? Q So the trick is making the shift before it comes to that, then? A Of course. You may also like.

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